Last night I felt the need to tell Tom all the things he does {or doesn’t do} that drive me crazy. Sometimes there are a bunch. Mid dig he interupted me and said “but you do the same things”. What?? What does that have to do with anything? I ignored him and went on about something else and he said, “you do that too”. I stopped to think of the best way to tell him off and in the time I was thinking of what to say, I stopped and thought. Really thought. See I’ve been praying for God to give me guidance on our relationship and one thing He’s spoken to me about is patience & fairness. So in the couple of seconds I thought about how to tell Tom how irrelevant my own behavior was, I stopped myself and decided I should be fair. Which led me to realize…
He is right. If I’m honest, really really honest; I am “the pot calling the kettle black” on about 99.5% of the things I was attacking him about.
- Point 1: Overexaggerating an illness. Kettle: Saturday he found a deer tick on him and on Monday night he was complaining his joints hurt. Pot: A few weeks ago I convinced myself (and everyone else) that I had H5N1 after testing pigs for H5N1 but all I really had was a cold.
- Point 2: Doing unproductive things Kettle: Wanted to play Madden (the video game) for his birthday Pot: Goes on pinterest, twitter & facebook every 10 minutes.
- Point 3: Room is never clean. Kettle: Room is never clean Pot: Room is never clean.
Who. Knew. Of course he quoted Matthew 7:5 and I didn’t have too much to say in way of a come back.
I love that my sweet boyfriend is able to call me on my stuff. Drive me crazy, yes. But he is fair and patient and always able to put things in a Godly perspective for me.
“You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” Matthew 7:5
In the words of poet Rainer Maria Rilke; “Make your ego porous. Will is of little importance, complaining is nothing, fame is nothing. Openness, patience, receptivity, solitude is everything.”
I'm proud of you whether you are a kettle or not at least you admit it.
Now in the words of wise woman we know and love: "Go clean your room!" Lol.